As a psychotherapist in Tooting and Southampton with 14 years of private clinical experience, I am very lucky to have met a multitude of people over the years from a variety of backgrounds and worked with a multitude of problems. If you are struggling with depression, anxiety, anger issues, stress, low self-esteem, or any other mental health issue, my practice is a safe space for you to find answers.
The success of psychotherapy rests on two very important processes, carried out in the spirit of self-compassion. We have to notice the way we think and we have to implement new changes (lay down new neuronal pathways in our brain) We can do this more easily if we are being non-judgemental to ourselves. It isn’t possible to hate ourselves into being ‘good enough’
My psychotherapy practice in Tooting, Southampton, and online is available to adults experiencing a wide range of issues. Take a look at my Home page to learn more.
By freeing (or verbalising) your uncomfortable thoughts and feelings in a private, non-judgemental environment, we will be able to identify where they come from. This could involve exploring early childhood or perhaps a recent event that has had an impact on you. Having understood how your thoughts work, why they happen, and how they affect you, we can break the repetitive and destructive patterns of behaviour that we so easily fall back into however hard we try not to. Self knowledge allows us to choose a path and a future, as opposed to being helplessly swept along and carried into negative ways of thinking/behaving. Clients often tell me that sessions have served to ‘join the dots’ and ‘reverse the engine’ in their lives, and that talking with me in sessions was much easier then they had anticipated.
There is a really important point to make here – our perception of events in the past may be what lies at the core of our problems. We aren’t always aware of what our perceptions are of the past – we think we do but our symptoms of unhappiness are telling a different story. Often it is a mixture of what we have perceived and what has actually happened that brings us to therapy. It is not about blame – or about feeling like we have been hard done by – it is about understanding at a deeper level the nature of the conclusions we have drawn. A sense of loyalty or a feeling we shouldn’t ‘complain’ often keeps us from seeking help. If you repeatedly experience a debilitating symptom in your life, I would suggest you keep an open mind and mobilise an objective curiosity as to why this is.
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